Probably she was right on her part, probably she could see all that which I somehow couldn’t and still can’t.I have started to feel what she felt,never felt anything against her ever,I was rather insecure until a realisation dawned upon me “The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.”
Everyone I have ever known I take that back every likable person I have ever known in this world has admitted to periods of sheer insecurity. They looked at themselves from the perspective of someone else — perhaps a person with no appreciation of their talents, personality traits, abilities—and judged themselves unfairly according to the perverted view.
Insecurity or vulnerability of spirit is essentially humility, which is a divine quality.It’s not all bad. Heightened self-consciousness, apartness, an inability to join in, physical shame and self-loathing—they are not all bad. Those devils have been my angels. Without them I would never have disappeared into language, literature, the mind, laughter and all the mad intensities that made and unmade me.
It could be anything- a relationship (named or unknown), an attribute, a habit, a gesture, a text message, a phrase, a gesture,a person, a memory, an incident,a behaviour and so on that can make you feel insecure.There are only a few people in my life who get me. Who really get me. When I’m insecure, I will drive 250 miles to see them, or squeeze a half hour into my hectic evening to talk to them on the phone. They remind me of what is good and unique about myself — maybe unorthodox and not at all appreciated by other folks — elements that contribute to my decent DNA. These people love that I have no filter, that I say whatever I am thinking out loud and therefore insult an average of two people every ten seconds. This character defect, they say, is refreshing!
What we see these days is the insecurity in relationships around us.Our most personal and valued relationships often bring out the very best and very worst in us. Close relationships, especially those of a romantic nature, require us to be vulnerable on some level… to show more of our true nature…. to suspend our fear… to let someone in… to let down our guard. This vulnerability can trigger powerful emotions, the heady whirlwind of the ecstatic energy of ‘love’ can drudge up all kinds of unresolved stuff from the dregs of your past. This can be unexpected and scary. Some insecurity in love can be natural and normal… to wonder ‘does he really love me?’ ‘is she thinking the same way as I am about us?’. Any romance novel or movie would seem to suggest that these thoughts are part and parcel of the romance game. But, as in most things, what is important is balance. If you are feeling out of balance and if the insecurity in your relationship is heavily weighted towards your side of the scales, then maybe it’s time to reflect on how you can strengthen your own self esteem and thus be a more attractive romantic partner and happier human being.
So, my point is that nothing is too important to take up your valuable time which you could probably use to fulfil your dreams.No person or incident should be on your mind 24*7,because you know what they disappoint! at every step and in every phase.They have nothing else to offer.So make your journey worthy by reminding yourself that change is always tough. Even for those who see themselves as agents of change, the process of starting a new thing can cause times of disorientation, uncertainty and insecurity.
I think we all have blocks between us and the best version of ourselves, whether it’s shyness, insecurity, anxiety, whether it’s a physical block, and the story of a person overcoming that block to their best self. It’s truly inspiring because I think all of us are engaged in that every day.
Be who you are! 😉
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