Make your Bucket List Today!!

A few days ago, I was surfing online when I came across someone’s bucket list. It quickly inspired me to create my own list and write an article about it at the same time. Even if you frequently live by goals or to-do lists, they are probably framed within a certain social context e.g. performance, career, health. A bucket list opens up the context. It’s a forum to set anything and everything you’ve ever wanted to do, whether it’s big, small or random.

It’s just like planning ahead all the highlights you want for YOUR whole life. 😀 Even though goal setting is already my staple activity, I still found many new things to do while I was writing on my own list. It was an incredibly insightful exercise. What’s more, coming up with my list gave me a whole new layer of enthusiasm knowing what’s in store ahead!

I can never read all the books I want, I can never be all the people I want and live all the lives I want. I can never train myself in all the skills I want. And why do I want? I want to live and feel all the shades, tones and variations of mental and physical experience possible in my life. And I am horribly limited.

I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.

Delicious Ambiguity…………………………

If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.

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The Heart Cried

She got up from a slumber with her eyes inquisitive

She walked in with cherubic feet

only to wake up and realise how strange the world is

It was infancy and she was loved deeply

Adults had already planned as to when she grows up,what she’ll be

She could only giggle and laugh at the stupid gestures that they made.

Grew up a little, and started to get acquainted with strangers.that’s when she saw how ugly and scarred being a girl is. In her subconscious, she had a foundation laid.

Then came adolescence, and she became rebellious,getting to know the restrictions a girl faces.Had a lot to say and to tell.

But couldn’t even initiate,being considered a kid,Oh well!

She knew being an adult would suck.

She was not listened to when she had a story to tell.

Guess what,now she doesn’t give a fuck.

BROKE OR BROKEN ?!#@?

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FUNDS FOR THE WEEK!

I have been a lot confused lately as to whether I’m Broke or Broken! Broke as in minus money and broken as in minus money and emotions.

Of course, I’ve watched the drama in “2 Broke Girls”.But what I feel is nothing like it.I  know I’m broke when even a lunch at the lousy chain restaurant at the mall is out of my financial reach.I know I’m broken too,not only am I struggling with an insane amount of stress from work right now, but I am facing emotional and mental breakdowns too. I’m burning out quickly and there’s no relief in sight.

The point is which side is heavier broke or broken?

I see every other day, people of my age group are getting married, going on lavish honeymoons, celebrating marriage anniversaries,naming their babies! To sum up, they’re all settled……

when I get to the root of it, I see they’re all gold-diggers.they find someone rich to fulfill all their dreams and aspirations.I can’t tell if that’s wrong! but it certainly doesn’t feel right to me.

But in order to be able to pay my own  bills and get my own S class, 5 series, a mini cooper and an evoque (for that much, I guess I need to probably change my sirname to Ambani or Birla):p, I need to be independent and ambitious,not a gold digger! Although I do not see it happening and it kills me every time to realize how much I’ve missed out on!  I am independent,but then people do not like it! I have values and principles,people call it my tantrums.

I’m both emotionally and financially challenged.when I say so, it means my 6 years of being on my own, away from home! and what do I have?  nothing……

I haven’t lost all hopes,but I’m exhausted. I literally need that one person to keep faith in me and get me going.

I do not even know if this post makes sense.

It’s just not my time!

Rest of you, Live Love Laugh Read!

 

 

Cutting out people? Read before you do!

We mainly justify our relationships with people by their use to us. If they’re not serving some purpose to us or are giving us only negative energy, we’re inclined to cut them out of our lives.
There are a number of those inspirational quotes that say something along the lines of people not being worth your time if they don’t give you what you give them. While I agree that we do need to know when enough is enough, there’s another side to these quotes that we sometimes forget to consider.
Determining whether someone should stay in your life or not because they’re not doing any good for you is not always a good thing. People come and go on their own. You can’t force people to stay or leave. It just happens when the time is right.
The problem is that we sometimes fail to recognize (or refuse to) when the time has or has yet to come. Thus, we emotionally stress ourselves over why we can’t keep or get rid of someone in our lives. It’s either because their time was up a while ago or it’s not up yet.
The way I like to think life works is that people’s paths cross because there is something that needs to be learned. For however long it takes, be it weeks, months or years, once that exchange has been made, that’s usually when the time has come to move on with whatever lessons that were gained.
Granted, there are the few who are meant to be in your life for a very long time and can teach you endless lessons. But I’m focusing on everyone else who isn’t. And granted, you can’t foresee who those people are from the start. This is all usually seen in hindsight.
We all know how tough it can be to let someone go when their time with you is up. They served their purpose and taught you the lesson you needed to learn. Done. Unfortunately, all good things come to an end. So when you’re left to wonder why things ended so soon, it’s important to deeply think about what lesson you both may have gained from that relationship – be it about your own selves or about life itself.
But what about the flip side? What about when you want to cut someone out of your life because you feel like they’re not doing anything for you and/or adding to your strides but yet, they’re still around? Well, not everyone who comes into your life is going to teach you something.
Sometimes the teaching isn’t always reciprocated. Sometimes you’re not always the student. Sometimes you’re the one teaching them.
So the next time you find yourself wracking your brain about why the heck a person is still in your life when you don’t need them, keep in mind that maybe you’re needed more in theirs. Whether it’s a listening ear, a reality check, or a helping hand to the next chapter in their life, perhaps you have something to teach them.
Sometimes people need what you have to give. It’s also important to remember that there is only so much of yourself you can keep giving to someone. But when you consider both sides equally, you’ll have what you need to live a life that’s a little more meaningful and thoughtful.
So, LIVE LOVE LAUGH READ.
CHEERS 🙂

“Disappointed” is the new Relationship Status!

How often have you found yourself cribbing over petty issues and then claim that you’re always disappointed? and then you’ll hear people say “expectation is the root cause of disappointment” all around you,without failing to mention that they care for us.

Then you’ll dive into the ocean of intellect,a few realizations will dawn upon you.Too often we think the role of a boyfriend or girlfriend is to make us happy and complete our life.Think about it, do you really think you deserve to fuck up your mind just to have someone who cares for you!

Hell, NO! those who care will always do no matter what, those who don’t will keep pretending!

In a relationship, you cannot be the puppeteer. People have their own emotions, behaviors, actions, beliefs, scars, wounds, fears, dreams, and perspectives. They are their own person.

How often have you wanted a relationship to be something that it is not?

How many times have you said a certain word or phrase in order to spark a specific reaction?

How much do you expect from this person? Do they fail you each and every time?

In a relationship, there are certain expectations, like being treated well or being respected. Yet sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that don’t mirror what we anticipate to happen. We may feel hurt or used.

Maximum emotions and reactions are based on “how could you?”, “Why did you not?” “Don’t leave me alone” “Don’t go here”, “why did you do this?”, “why can’t you do this?”

Sometimes you guide the other person by saying so, but maximum times you control! Everyone has a life, they do no want to be controlled.They will do whatever, anyway anyhow however!

We cannot expect other people to treat us as we would treat them. We cannot assume anything or force change upon someone who clearly demonstrates he or she is stuck in his or her own way.

Some people associate disappointment with fear of harm or deprivation, though the more common linkage is with fear of isolation, i.e., disappointment threatens to make them feel unlovable: “No one will understand me,” or, “No one will care.”

Just as frequently in love relationships, disappointment is associated with the shame of inadequacy, a sense of failure, particularly as a protector, lover, or provider.

Think about it, do you really think you deserve to fuck up your mind just to have someone who cares for you!

Hell, NO! those who care will always do no matter what, those who don’t will keep pretending!

If you are self-sufficient,you don’t need to expect anything. Work on that!

Drink Wine and Enjoy your life,even if alone!

 

Live Love Laugh Read!!

🙂

 

Soulmate

Often times in a relationship, we settle. We may not be happy. Our needs may not be met, but we stay.for those of you who have settled, you’re not alone. Many people have settled but it’s important for you to know that somewhere out there is that person you feel happy to love and they feel happy to love you back.someone who you’re truly meant to be with. You will never find happiness in settling and it’s not fair to either of you.when you settle you always feel like something is missing. You never really truly feel happy in your relationship. You often find yourself longing for something more. We are so programmed to find that person we can live with but when you find that person you can’t imagine your life without you’ve found something truly beautiful.

If you have something or someone adding beauty to your life, consider yourself blessed.

If you haven’t told them yet how lucky you are to have them, do it right now.

Life is too short to be lived under miscommunications and communication gaps.

Make efforts and enjoy the fruit!

Live Love Laugh Read

Cheers

 

 

My kajal ain’t smudged!

No, It’s not a make-up experiment, neither have I done the smokey effect onto my eyes. I am human and I cry! So, it’s the tears and my eyes are swollen! People keep asking weird questions, “oh puffy eyes, must be into smoking and drinking!”, “”didn’t sleep well?”, “allergy with some cosmetic?”…

Arghhhh.. (Does anyone really care? )

I am confident enough to admit it, I am not ashamed of crying. It’s just another form of expression.Why not respect it as much as we do the other forms? Oh wait! Do we respect every form?

Damn me, I forgot I am an Indian and we accept or reject as per our own convenience, minus logic!

Nevertheless, I was talking about crying. We have always believed that only the “weak ones” are bound to crying. Strong people don’t cry! Really?

Charles Dickens said “Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.”

So folks, do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.

So, choose who you want to be!

 

Live Love Laugh Read!

Cheers

🙂

 

What it feels like to be yourself!!

So what have you achieved so far by being yourself?

Here are a few laurels you might have embraced by now

  • Being taken for granted
  • Being cornered out  (because being pretentious is the new cool)
  • Being bitched about (because you are upfront)
  • Being Broke (because you either have a bad time or too many values)
  • Being Betrayed (because you were too cool as a partner. You never asked and he never told!)
  • Being numb at even the most critical situations.

Now your perception will force you to see the positive in a pool of negatives,which is cool.

But you know what you are missing out on? LIFE!!!

There are certain things which are by default in this world and it is better for us to acquaint ourselves with  them at the earliest.My observations say:

  1. If you have friends,keep them,meet them.If not, make them.It’s healthy.
  2. Parents are a priority.Don’t let them down.Cherish them.
  3. If you have a challenged relationship,move out.Cheating issues, move out.If you begin deleting your messages so that the other person doesn’t see them,Totally move out! If you discover (as he would never ever tell you on his own, you have to find out) your spouse random flirting in parties or on social media.Trash the jerk into garbage and move on!
  4. Guys will be guys,They melt with boobs and booty! They will ogle and never admit.
  5. Being independent is extremely necessary.Being self-sufficient too.
  6. Always Save money!!!!
  7. Be kind,Also take nobody’s shit!
  8. Every girl in this world is after money and a handsome Super duper rich man to lean on! If you happen to meet an exception.Don’t give up on her.Keep her till eternity.
  9. Do not interfere too much.(Don’t be poky)
  10. Do judge,but don’t show!

Let’s not complicate too much.Let’s find out as to what exactly our problems are,so as to live peacefully.

Why would you want to be someone else
When you could be better by being yourself
Why pretend to be someone you are not
When you have something they haven’t got

Cheating yourself of the life you have to live
Deprives others of that only which you can give
You have much more to offer by being just you
Than walking around in someone else’s shoes

Trying to live the life of another is a mistake
It is a masquerade; nothing more than a fake
Be yourself and let your qualities show through
Others will love you more for being just you not who others want to see.


We are who we allow ourselves to become we get what we give, we give what we get so give it your all and don’t ever give up.Be the best you be the person you want to be just remember to be yourself.We are perfectly imperfect and beautiful within because beauty isn’t skin deep,it’s deeper than the skin.

This day is yours it belongs to no one but you put one foot in front of the other and take a step closer to making all your dreams come true

You are perfectly imperfect and this is okay because no one is flawless, no one is perfectly made

You are beautiful within and your smile reflects the love inside your heart
So, share a grin and let others see who you are

Be the best you,just be who you are inside
be the person that makes you happy and live your best life.

LIVE LOVE LAUGH READ

🙂

Cheers!

Say it if it’s worth saving me!

All of us have embraced depression at some point or the other in our lives.The sudden peaks and lows of mood,the desire to be left alone,yet want someone to care,unnecessary overthinking, too much caring,sudden fits of rage and inexplicable desire to cry and shout out loud,a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest.

These are a few feelings to mention.One remains under a constant state of turmoil thereby experiencing self-suppression.

I hate to say it but I have been feeling every single thing lately.I am falling apart every moment. I feel that even I am not able to understand myself

I know something somewhere is wrong,but I don’t know how to fix it.

I can so relate to Nickelback right now!
Prison gates won’t open up for me
On these hands and knees I’m crawling
Oh, I reach for you

Well I’m terrified of these four walls
These iron bars can’t hold my soul in
All I need is you
Come please I’m calling
And all I scream for you
Hurry I’m falling.

Show me what it’s like
To be the last one standing
And teach me wrong from right
And I’ll show you what I can be
And say it for me
Say it to me
And I’ll leave this life behind me
Say it if it’s worth saving me

Heaven’s gates won’t open up for me
With these broken wings I’m falling
And all I see is you

These city walls ain’t got no love for me
I’m on the ledge of the eighteenth story
And all I scream for you
Come please I’m calling

And all I need from you
Hurry I’m falling

And all I need is you
Come please I’m calling
And all I scream for you
Hurry I’m falling

Say it for me
Say it to me
And I’ll leave this life behind me
Say it if it’s worth saving me!!

If you ever feel this way, go up to your loved ones and to those who care for you,talk about it and you’ll for sure be healed.
Remember to Live Love Laugh Read,it might help too!
🙂

Alone or lonely? the choice is yours!

alone

Being alone is an art, embrace it.

Being alone can be the most empowering experience of your life. If you let the loneliness consume you, you’re going to lose that rare chance to figure yourself out. You can always find company in yourself. Loneliness is going to try to force you to find that company with another person. Everyone has a place in the world, though, and  yours shouldn’t be inside someone else.

The thought dawned on me while I was sitting all alone though there were people under the same roof,but it didn’t feel right.Not even one of them is worth fighting for you know! fighting with inner self is what I am talking of,here. So, right now I am lonely but at the same time I am choosing to be alone. Weird right? It’s so me but! :/

As mentioned in the last article I wrote,I am on a quest to find the place where
I belong. Every face that I see changes on an hourly basis,making me go on a mute mode.

I literally don’t know what to do! Hence i choose to be alone. and you know what the best part is, no one cares whether or not you’re with them,they can always find an alternative. So the choice is yours to make.

As they say “use mukkamal kar bhi aao,wo jo adhoori si aas baaki hai”!

I am finding meaning to my existence,are you?

Live Love Laugh Read

Cheers!

🙂